Shannon is a really remarkable person who is not only very helpful, but also very insightful in a…read morevariety of ways. She's very responsive, informative and I couldn't imagine anyone better at their job. Shannon has a wonderful personality, a great sense of humor and is a delight to have as a resource in the process of meeting someone great.

I spent my time preparing my part of the work, they sent me a meeting invite fast (probably…read moreautomatically), we met, but my questions were not answered -- they wanted me to schedule another paid meeting. Right after the meeting they sent me a link to an article that "women after 40 are getting anxious about finding a partner" -- clearly a manipulation (and I'm 39). That's not how a top 1% single woman in Bay Area should be treated. I'd expect such services to *pay such women* to talk to them.

From day one, Yasmine, the head matchmaker at Skilled Attraction, treated me like a real person,…read morenot a number in a database or another client. She walked me through a full preparation period: a professional photoshoot (which I desperately needed), image consulting so I'd look my best on the photoshoot and on dates, and a deep conversation about my dealbreakers, values, and what I actually wanted in a partner. She even included extra coaching in my package, which helped me even to this day. Every month she found 3-4 genuinely great women -- the kind of matches I was excited for rather than felt obliged to meet. She personally interviewed each one, and I never felt pressured. On the rare occasion I said "no," she simply restarted the search with only a small penalty in relation to other matchmaker fees. She was also honest from the beginning with me that not everybody would say yes to my profile. That was okay too. What impressed me most was how personal the process felt. Yasmine remembered everything: my quirks, my fears, my preferences, even the things I didn't say out loud. She guided me through each step with kindness and honesty. She also diplomatically shared some of my concerns with my upcoming matches so there was transparency on both sides. I could see she deeply cared about both her client and their date equally enjoying the process. I expected this to take a long time or just be a stepping stone on my journey. But then... she found her. The woman who is now my wife. After so many years of being single, I'm married -- something I didn't think was possible for me anymore. Yasmine changed my life in a way I can never repay. There are two new women in my life now. My wife - and now our beautiful daughter. As such - I am and will always be - very thankful. FIVE STARS? TEN STARS

** Two different judges have ordered Yasmine to repay a combined $17,500 in the past 3 months**…read more I have previously posted about my experience with Yasmine, but the information was becoming stale and less-relevant, so I removed that post in favor of this more concise statement regarding the same experience. Today was my long-awaited court date with Yasmine to compel her to pay the refund required by our contract, and I won. The judge ordered her to pay me $9,000. To make the backstory as brief as possible, Yasmine and I contracted in July 2022 for 5-6 matches in 14 months. I initially liked her and do think she has some good matchmaking skills but had the sense that she was overscheduled. She provided 2 matches in the remainder of 2022, but throughout all of 2023, the matches she offered were often well outside of our agreed-upon parameters, had grainy/distant/sunglasses-only photos, and in at least two instances were actual catfish. Her communication also dropped off with various excuses such as "emailing the wrong Erika," falling ill, or having "lost her voice" and unable to talk on the phone. Even still this was not a big problem. I was patient with her, mostly because she had already collected a substantial fee from me, but I was also busy myself. However, when 2024 came around, I reached out to her multiple times for simple updates with no answer. Then when an entire month went by with no word from Yasmine, I decided she was either too busy or simply not interested in working with me and asked for a refund, and she agreed. All still not a problem! We had cordial negotiations to start, but things deteriorated rapidly when we could not agree on the refund amount so at that point I figured the best option was to let a judge decide. And that he did to the tune of $9,000 in favor of myself. I am happy for the folks who have had good luck with Yasmine recently. I'd like to think the experience with me inspired her to improve on her self-admitted lacking communication skills. However, to anyone considering hiring Yasmine today, I suggest you consider the following: Although required, her business is not registered in the city of San Francisco or the State of California. This means that there is no official mailing address on file to accept service of process. If for whatever reason you and she are not a good fit, ask yourself: how will you get your refund if there is nowhere to serve court papers? She lost to me today, and this review is about my experience only, but there are *public* court documents available with similar stories - in particular one in Nov 2025 where Yasmine was ordered to pay $8500. That's $17,500 that the courts have ordered Yasmine to repay clients in the span of 3 months. Let's not forget 5 stars for the San Mateo and San Francisco County Superior Courts!

I will talk to a matchmaker this week. They got back to me right away to schedule a phone…read moreconsultation

Working with Xiaoli Mei is a masterclass in cultural intelligence, emotional depth, and genuine…read morehuman connection. Her approach to matchmaking isn't transactional--it's transformational. What impressed me most is how she weaves together psychology, personal coaching, and cultural nuance to help clients not just find love, but understand what love truly means for them. Xiaoli brings a rare combination of empathy, structure, and vision to her work. She listens deeply, coaches with care, and never loses sight of the individual behind the profile. Watching her guide clients toward meaningful, values-aligned relationships--especially across cultures--has been both inspiring and refreshing. In a world of shortcuts, she chooses substance every time.

I am still working with Soniyah and it's been over 5 years now. However now I was able to bring the…read morelove of my life into the work with me. It was all due to the work I did with Soniyah that I was able to open my heart enough for this person to come into my life. Now he and I have been together for over 2 years and love doing the work together. We have grown as a couple and can see loved ones be inspired by our love and the way we show up for each other. It's a beautiful thing to get to work with Soniyah through this process. She meets us right where we are and gives us tools to help us keep growing as individuals and as partners. I brought my boyfriend into the work pretty much as soon as we met (even when everything was a dream) and now we can keep that dream going, years in. If you want to grow in yourself and be open for your love to find you, look NO FURTHER than Finding Bliss!!! Seriously! My boyfriend and I wish every person in the world had a "Soniyah" in their lives!

Writing this is long overdue! Finding Bliss is a love-centric experience, not just coaching, but a…read moreliving embodied experience. Soniyah is a fierce guide through the ups, downs, insides and outs of LOVE. If you want to align with (your) love, you know that it is incredible, and sometimes easy, sometimes wild and chaotic. Soniyah's presence has been impactful through many of these aspects, but especially supportive when love has been gloriously messy. It's her true gift, and a gift to receive her care. Thank you for how you trust love and guide people to more depth, intimacy & alignment with love. Not the path for the faint of heart, but for those who want more heart! I love sending people to you, and especially love hearing them share how they've grown as a result of working with you!! Thank you for saying 'YES' to showing up in this way Soniyah!! ~

Joy is simply a joy. Her smile is ear to ear and her heart is warm beyond measure. I met Joy not…read morehaving any idea who she was other than a validating friend's referral. What I got from my first meeting with Joy was deep listening, curious questioning and a professional match maker from toe to head. While my time knowing Joy as a client has been but 1.5 years, she has introduced me to so many incredible people from her network. With that said, she also introduced me to this spectacular human being who is now my partner in love. She is weird, has SOOOOO many overlapping experiences (Landmark education etc.) and has been instrumental in who I have become today. Joy set up my first and possibly last blind date, it was done with setting the intention i.e. location and logistics. I was to carry a flower/and a book not only as my marker, but also a great below the surface ice breaker. It was awesome, Joy now continues in my life as a friend and an igniter for deeper and sillier experiences that are glass half full and wholesome. Big hugs to you Joy, if you haven't met this human, you should. Warmly, Kyle

There is something about Joy that just makes the world work! I've know her for a decade, and each…read moretime after talking to her, the universe conspires on my behalf, my communication flows easier and more productively, and I'm just filled with joy. ha ha, I didn't mean to pun, but SERIOUSLY! She brings joy to my life. And my love life! Whether you are a couple that wants more from your relationship, or a single that is looking for love, Joy can provide the guidance you need to get you what you want.

Select Date Society is the best of the best in terms of matchmaking companies. I cannot recommend…read morethem highly enough. I ended up in a relationship outside of SDS, but having SDS in my back pocket as an insurance policy of sorts has been very reassuring. If you're looking to get into a serious relationship, look no further. This is the place to go. No more swiping!

From the owner: Select Date Society is a private, highly selective world-class matchmaking firm representing HNW…read morerelationship-minded singles. We work with a limited number of clients at any given time, ensuring a level of discretion, access, and personalized attention that is rarely found in modern dating. Our approach is neither transactional nor algorithm-driven. It is intentional, refined, and deeply personal. Co-Founders Sandra Myers and Amber Lee bring more than five decades of combined experience, earning a reputation as trusted advisors to ultra-high-net-worth individuals seeking meaningful, lasting partnerships. Every client is carefully vetted and privately represented. Our global network is cultivated with precision, allowing us to introduce exceptional individuals aligned in values, lifestyle, and long-term vision. Select Date Society is designed for those who expect the same level of excellence in their personal lives as they do in their professional world. Applications are accepted on a selective basis. If you are ready to pursue a relationship of substance and significance, we welcome your inquiry.

Alex's style and work ethic is definitely something to aspire to as a fellow photographer. He is…read moreable to draw out our rawest and truest selves when we step in front of his lens. All that he asks is to get a glimpse into your life, to hear your own unique perspective on the world. In return, you will receive a reflection of your war wounds, how you have battled your obstacles to obtain your everyday small triumphs. In order to do this effectively, Alex takes every step in the post production process to heart, being conscious of all the meticulous details that go into making your special moment last. Whether it is for corporate or social events Alex's work continues to be of high quality. I was very fortunate to have Alex take my headshot. I'm not a particularly extroverted person so for him to be able to bring out an honest, warm smile means more to me than the image taken after. (Though I will more than likely use that photo until the end of time. Thank you.

Alex took photos at my grandmother's 90th birthday party. He was extremely fun to work with and…read morewent above and beyond what was expected. He was able to catch both posed and candid shots; the photos that we received show his great talent and concentration to detail. Alex's photos are of the highest quality and it speaks volumes of his professionalism and commitment to his craft. Thank you Alex for helping us capture a huge milestone!

While I have only been with IJL for 2 months I have been so happy with the service I have received…read more I especially enjoyed my initial interview with Kelly and how she really took the time to get to know me and what I'm looking for and also what I'm NOT looking for Her advise for me to get off the dating apps and let her do her job enabled me to relax and trust the process. The rapport we built in a short amount of time allowed me to trust that she really had/has my best interest at heart. My matches so far have been well attuned to my personality and interests. I feel grateful for Kelly's thoughtfulness and consideration in setting up my matches. I feel grateful for the opportunity to give feedback and how each date going forward is based on that feedback. Above all the IJL service has offered me the opportunity to connect with other people who are looking for a serious relationship, something the dating apps really fall short on. In conclusion I highly recommend Kelly and the IJL team knowing that soon I'll be in the relationship of my dreams thanks to their hard work and dedication to their craft.

THEY STILL CALL ME AFTER 22 YEARS!…read more I used the service once back in 2003 for one lunch as a freebie trial because a friend was a new rep of theirs and she wanted me to 'just try it out' for them. Since then, I get a call probably once or twice a year saying that they have found 'someone aaaamazing' for me. Every time, I tell them that I am off the market as I have been with the same woman for 15 years - married for 13. I even go so far as to return their voicemails to advise them of such. Still they call. I have come to the humorous conclusion that either they have zero unmarried alpha males in their Bay Area dating pool so they have to reach out to us Texas men or they're trying to become the next Ashley Madison via lunch dates at Red Lobster.

Lauren is an amazing therapist & coach. She is knowledgable, empathetic, and well-versed in a wide…read morearray of practices and disciplines making it especially easy to bring up questions, issues, and experiences in relationships of all stripes. I especially like how Lauren takes a holistic approach: a conversation might begin about a feeling of uncertainty I'm having with someone I'm dating, but lead to a therapeutic exploration of a past experience or a discussion of some unrecognized value or belief. I know that through my interactions with Lauren I'm learning about myself and getting closer to my achieving my goals. I wholeheartedly recommend working with her.

I was a serial dater for most of my life and currently in my third and best marriage! Yay :) In the…read morepast my dedication to commitment was weak. Relationships came easy to me. But deepening in them, creating something meaningful out of them, and creating win-win situations within them was essentially non-existent especially when the pressures of work-life hit. I used to think that relationships were supposed to always be easy going and calm, well, they should be but aren't always, but that doesn't necessarily mean give up. One day I had an "Ah ha" moment, when I realized that the biggest breakdowns come inside of the most committed relationships. Today I know that my most important relationships are my closest ones, and they are what I put my most energy, love, vulnerability, openness, generosity, and self-awareness towards. Lauren has known me and has been a pillar in my life through these times. I'm grateful for her and all that she offers is not only fad relationship work, but it's at the heart of what's going wrong with us. I believe in both personal sessions and group work. She can help facilitate you to a better place, whether you need to find and fix things or to better prepare for the unknown future of relationships she's the one to go to. There's no better investment than in yourself, that's undeniable truth. You don't need to have issues to see Lauren, optimizing life now is just as important. To have such a gentle, special soul like Lauren to guide you through wherever you are in life is one of the greatest things you can do for yourself. Thank you, Lauren! I appreciate you and how you've helped me through the years!

Courteney is great. She seems to know what she's doing, and set me up with some wonderful women to…read moremeet. While nothing ended up working out in the long term during our six-month contract, I had a great time. She seems to have a wide network across the SF Bay Area, and is part of many communities. She can invite you to a bunch of group events that she runs to bring people together, and can also recommend various events around town to socialize. I didn't ask for a huge amount of coaching from her, but what advice I did get was solid and helped me. She helped me with my online dating profiles including photos, as well as giving clothing style advice. Courteney seems to generally care for her clients and bringing people together. She can adjust her coaching and matchmaking to suit your needs; it feels very personalized.

I am anticipating a good match. Courteney responded within a few hours of me texting. Look forward…read moreto finding marriage material after Ms. Kay's services. Daniel