I understood this to be a "seed" church from an organization out of Oregon. I must say that I was excited to attend after getting such a warm introduction from a new member. What I found was less than disappointing. First, it appeared that my introduction was made by someone unbeknownst to me, was somewhat ostracized by the organization or unwanted (I am still not sure). Sadly, I don't even feel he realizes it. I will get back to that later.
Upon first glance, the congregation, although small was very attentive and seemed to be enraptured by the "jr. minister". Unfortunately, that is as far as it goes. These folks seemed to be more self-serving than welcoming. They seemed to have "planted" themselves in Cary, for themselves. Here I was, a stranger in the midst of folks very familiar with each other, and by the end of the Wednesday night service, I was approached by 3 folks...out of more than 60! There was a lovely young couple that went out of their way and a single female that made acquaintances. But it ended there. The other folks that were very familiar with each other, only held fellowship....with each other.
It would seem to me, that if you are relatively new to a city, and your "mission" is to grow, that one would go out of his or her way to welcome visitors? Maybe even a friendly "hello' or simple "welcome." I got 3. I even pronounced that I was from a family of faith and excited about their new place of worship, and I think if I had begged or even offered to pay someone to approach me it would have fallen on deaf ears.
I was even more dismayed by the so-called "lead minister" who spent an inordinate amount of time rehashing praise from their senior leadership/head church, as If they kissed the back of his hand or as if he got an A on an Algebra test. That, rather than welcoming a stranger, was the straw the broke the camels back. I couldn't even get an introduction to this lead guy, who seemed glued to his ipad! I can't understand how everyone seemingly knew each other and a lone stranger cant even get a "welcome" or a handshake" until it dawned on me. I was invited by someone I think they would rather not have in their midst. You see, this person was a sinner and has fallen short of the grace of God (gasp)! I honestly think my association with this professed sinner caused my own ostracized greeting. I hope I am wrong, but it was sad nonetheless.
I hope they continue to receive the "okay" or blessings from their head honchos, but as delightful as they seemed, they have a long way to fulfill any sort of mission. I was very disappointed. They convened in small groups to pray for whatever the needs of those in each small group had. Honestly, they should have prayed for guidance on how to be more welcoming. I did however, delight in the coffee and rice krispy treats, as that is what the one star is for!
Message to the "flock": Romans 12:13 Contribute to the needs of the saints; extend hospitality to strangers.
Matthew 25: 35 I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me.
EDIT: I received a call from the lead pastor who apologized profusely. It is refreshing to see someone own up to their shortcomings. With this factored in, I would suggest that folks give this church a try. I am sure they are working to improve and will probably now go out of their way to be more welcoming. His call was very much appreciated. My review wasnt to touch a nerve, but to be open and honest as they are a reflection of themselves. I even see two "warm" reviews to offset my initial commentary. This obviously means they want to put on a good face. Please, don't just trust a little 'ole review, go for yourself. They deserve God's grace as I am sure they are trying. Kudos to them for the effort! read more