Below is our personal experience with Yazel Megli Funeral Home in Marion, KS. We have family ties…read moreto Marion 100+ years.
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My email to Owner:
I want to express my extreme disappointment with both your Company's failure to provide the memory cards for my Sister's service and our conversation the day of her service, Saturday, June 14. You denied that we had ordered them but I reminded you that I stood right beside you as you entered the information & the chosen poem on your computer. We told you that we didn't expect many people & that 50 would be sufficient. I also reminded you that I had called the previous Tuesday, June 10 to ensure that they had been printed. You assured me that they had. I asked whether the chosen poem had been included and you assured me it had. You blamed it on someone else in your Company for not getting it done; stating that there was a note 'private service- family only- no printing''. Had you actually checked, you would have seen the note & avoided the error. You DID NOT CHECK & just told me what was convenient. You did not take responsibility, responding that the "appropriate person would be beaten". The appropriate person is YOU. You didn't notify us once you received my Sister back from MidWest nor let us know when her urns were ready as you had said. However, I did not think you would flat out be untruthful, telling me the cards were ready when they were not. There's no do over. My other Sister & her Husband regret engaging & paying for their cremations with you. I regret engaging you for xxx.
Response from YM Owner:
I received your email, and while we do try to please every single family, it was obvious to me that throughout our interactions, you were not going to be pleased with our service at all. I was especially concerned when I learned that your brother xxx was not consulted in the disposition of your mother. As a next of kin, he should have been informed by law. At great risk to my license, I proceeded with a cremation after being assured that all next of kin were present. I was able to speak to xxx, and he assured me that my company had no exposure. That is not right. I am sorry that you feel we are awful people- you have that choice. I, too, have a choice of who I will do business with, and I am appreciative that you will not be using my service ever again. No further response will be read.
1. xxxx was my Sister, not my Mother. I identified myself as her Sister every time I spoke to him.
2. Mystery why he believes that I would not be happy. I was always polite, not argumentative and had no reason to think there would be a problem until the day of her service. That's when I found out the cards had not been printed as assured. Our family has had several funerals there under different management. Always exemplary service.
3. There is not a legal obligation to notify siblings unless they were part of the will. Xxx was not named in her will and my Sister specifically requested that he not be informed since he had not contacted her in over five years.
4. I did inform the Owner that both brothers were not informed of her death and why. At no time did I "assure" him that all next of kin were present.
5. At no time did I say they were "awful people". I was conveying to him my disappointment with his handling of my Sister's service.
Finally: the Owner does not dispute nor deny that the events as I presented above occurred. He turned it on me, the Customer, for his failings. I believe anyone would be upset learning on the day of a Service that the memory cards they were assured were printed were not and then the Provider blaming the Customer.
Instead of a conciliatory response, he chose to insult and refuse any further communication. Interesting way to run a business.
NOTE:
"You are not legally required to notify a sibling of a parent's death unless they are named in the will or trust. However, it is often considered a compassionate act to inform them, as family dynamics can be affected by such news."
agingcare.com
keystone-law.com
Again, she was our Sister, a sibling, not our Mother, a parent.