I was in this office yesterday because my midwife sent me here for my 20wk anatomy ultrasound. Dr…read more Silver and both women on her staff ALL lacked bedside manner. They were ALL very inconsiderate and disrespectful. For starters, when we arrived, we were told my 10yo son (proudly wearing his Big Brother t-shirt) had to sit in one of the doctors' offices or the lobby. I said, "Yeah, not alone.. we just drove an hour, and he'll sit there quietly, not in the way. " I was told it was pandemic protocol, even though it's May 2024, and everyone in the office was wearing a protective N95. Let's relax, alright?
During the ultrasound, I was told I have too much amniotic fluid. So, of course, I start to worry. I was told it could be due to too much glucose and was then grilled about my diet. I am a small framed woman & very healthy. She told me to cut back on granola and cereal, lol, even though I don't consume those particular items. Why not mention how stress/cortisol can cause glucose spikes or make a recommendation for a blood test to determine glucose levels more accurately before nitpicking my diet? Anyway. That's not the biggest deal. She also told me my baby is very large, measuring ahead, yada yada. Doulas, and those in the birth world know what that means. It's usually inaccurate fear mongering to push vulnerable women in to inductions or scheduled surgical births. Once those women give birth, whether vaginally or via surgery, most of the time their babies are normal weight and FINE, sometimes even small (6lbs). So no, I will not be giving in to the fear mongering.
I've dreamed of having a surprise gender birth. People always ask what we are having, and I happily respond, "we are waiting to find out until the birth day!". My husband and I told every single person in that office we do NOT want to know the sex, we are waiting to be surprised at birth. Dr. Silver did ask us all to turn our heads, I'll give her that, but then printed out a picture showing very clearly BOY. Like what in the actual fuck. Her tech also said at the end, HE has a cute face. Um, what? HE? I asked her why she said that, and she stumbled and said, "Oh, I say that about all babies... I don't like saying -it-". I'm sorry, but I don't buy it. I'm expected to believe she calls female babies HE? Not a chance. Not that I am upset about having another son. I don't care as long as my baby is healthy!! It's the fact that we said REPEATEDLY NOT to tell us. I left sobbing. The absolute worst day, which we were all looking forward to.
Thanks for ruining our surprise Dr.Silver & team!! You're all cold and callous, like these other negative reviews say. If I need to have a follow-up to check my placenta again, I'll be seeking a second opinion elsewhere.