The other night, I was smoking cigarettes in what I should have realized was a private patio. A nearby resident was perturbed, and called the police to have me checked out & sent on my way.
I'd had a late night the night before, so my nerves were particularly on edge when the two Carmel PD officers arrived. However, they were completely professional, and quite considerate in the way they explained that they had been asked to find out who I was, & warn me to stop loitering there.
This all was handled cordially, but to my embarrassment, we found out from Carmel PD dispatch that there was something of a problem when they ran my license(!)
Now background is, a few years ago, before I moved to Carmel, I went through a rebellious/irresponsible phase, and it got me in some trouble on a few occasions. I was foolish more than my share of times, but I did learn from my mistakes, so over the last couple years, I've wised up & worked on doing things the right way, not taking excessive risks, & generally not being sketchy.... But, about 2 years ago when I didn't much have my act together I signed a promise to appear in court & totally blew it off. I was lazy & scared, so I made-believe it never happened. IRL though, that meant another county had had a warrant out for my arrest & it finally caught up w/ me
This is the point where I want to thank the two officers who dealt with me. Much as I wanted them to tell me to just get out of there & not worry about it, I knew that wasn't realistic - they were legally compelled to arrest me, and all 3 of us knew that, so I didn't try to argue or make a fuss. They really went out of their way to thank me for being polite & reasonable. And not only were they completely respectful the entire time, they were actually sympathetic, reassuring & as friendly as they could possibly be without breaking decorum.
Generally, being arrested is the farthest thing from a "good" experience, but both officers demonstrated truly commendable humanity & professionalism. They made sure I wasn't going to run or fight of course, but they let me finish my ginger beer, allowed me a generous amount of time on the phone to call my significant other & another family member, and throughout our whole interaction, they made me more rather than less comfortable. When I was arrested once, a couple years ago, I had the probably typical arrestee's response of anger, bitterness, & a sense of persecution or at least resentment. With the Carmel PD it was almost the total opposite; I feel like if I see these officers again, I'll want to stop to say hello because we're already well on out way to being friends!
Once I was transferred out of their custody, things did get rather unpleasant, but there's not much Carmel PD can do about that.
County jail does not come anywhere close to maintaining the outstanding standards of ethics & hospitality we enjoy in Carmel. I most definitely don't recommend visiting jail (unless it's to see a loved one inside of course). Still, I'm glad I've finally taken care of the matter that had been hanging over my head. It was really a pretty minor thing in the first place, so I was only held a couple days, and I never felt particularly unsafe, though that's mostly just how I am: If you pick 100 people at random, chances are, I'll be both the last person you'd ever want to fight against among them, yet also the least likely person to provoke a fight. read more