I had almost completed two packages of the LipLase treatment with Monica Masterson, NP when during…read moremy last session, she unexpectedly turned to me and said: "So my understanding is that even though you have smaller lips, you still don't want something more intensive like filler?"
I was in shock. My full, ample, voluptuous lips are one of those features I always treasured and cherished receiving admiration for. I was so surprised to hear someone could actually find them to be small, my mind did briefly go to "OMG, DO I need filler?" and I started asking her all about filler. Of course, then I remembered they're a business and that's exactly what they wanted--or else they would NEVER make a comment that's so far from the gorgeous reality that is me. She then made it worse by talking about how she doesn't care about money and never pushes fillers on people--which of course made me wonder, is she saying it because it's *true* then??
After several therapy sessions, I am happy to say I am back to the level of confidence I had before this comment was made--so now that I'm stronger, I'm speaking up for myself. It was so startling and frightening to go in for what I thought would be a normal, caring, professional treatment and instead receive criticism of my body, completely out of the blue, not asked for, and non-consensual. It felt like a real violation of patient boundaries. I was here to receive a service, not an evaluation of my looks.
This is a recent photo of me, BTW--taken months before I received their services at all. I am absolutely gorgeous just the way I am. As I am a model and adult star, I sometimes undergo non-invasive treatments to look even better, but that does not entitle anyone to invade my personal space and make unwanted comments about my body. If *I* somehow have "smaller lips," how many women have any hope of having normal lips?!? Businesses like this need to understand that, yes, in a way, they are profiting off people's insecurities--but if they *encourage* those very insecurities, it will backfire and they will lose business. People come here to gain confidence, not lose it. And customers, please know: No matter how much self-hatred businesses try to instill in you, love is so much greater than hate and as long as you have self-love, that will prevail. You can always choose self-love. They can never really hurt you.