Well what can I say? I have been to Chillies twice, the first time I was very pleasantly surprised and the food was fantastic. The second time was tonight and I was very offended to say the least. However food is still fantastic and better than most in the area. I went out for the evening with my husband and we decided to spend it at Chillies, we don't eat out much these days so getting out is a real treat. We love to have a good old natter with the staff as they are usually very friendly and very helpful.
My husband got chatting to the waiter to complement the food and happened to mention that I had lived in Bangladesh before while I was married to my Bangladeshi first husband. He inquired politely about my time there and I told him all the wonderful experiences of the people and the country and shared with them the fact that I had been over twenty times and lived there for two years with my then husband's family. He enjoyed the chat and went off. A few minutes later another waiter came over and was rather abrupt and started questioning me about my trip to their home country and when he discovered I was divorced from my first husband and re-married, he simply attacked me verbally saying I was no good and his people don't like divorce and that I did not like his people and it's an insult that I divorced one of their people etc etc,. it was simply very offensive. I told him, in a very polite way, that I had no issues with his people and all my experiences while in his country were positive ones, hence the reason I visited so often and still keep in touch with my inlaws, whom I adore!. I mentioned to this man that he should not be so disrespectful and that my divorce is a private matter and non of his business and he has no right to judge me. He did not respond too positively and we felt it was time to leave. We left without any desserts as we could not wait to get out of the place. We immeadiatly paid the bill and left.
I feel angry at the way I was treated and the fact that it has tarnished my view of this restaurant as the food is fabulous, the best in the area. However waiters like that with such a closed minds and arrogant manners should be taught local customs. It is simply not hospitable to embarrass a paying customer by saying that they are no good because they have been divorced from one of their fellow country men, he really has no right. This has gone a lot further than just an issue with respect and I feel that if you want good food, as long as you eat and don't make conversation then it's the place for you but if your friendly and like a chat, be warned these people will judge you and tell you exactly what they think of you regardless of the fact that you are paying their wages. I think this particular individual was arrogant but it has brought the reputation of the restaurant down in my eyes and I certainly won't eat here again.
I plan on contacting the owner and making him aware of this bad experience. Hopefully this is a one off but by gee it has made me feel violated and sick to the stomach. Be warned about the content of your conversations. read more