I meant to write this review a -very- long time ago. Being a parent is no joke. It starts with many unknowns, with excitement and a little bit of fear.
Nobody prepares you for what it is going to be, and everyone's experience is different. Most of the time, you may feel you're totally on your own, trying to figure things out together with your partner.
When my wife and I discovered we were going to become parents, we decided to schedule a few classes in preparation for the pregnancy and to understand better how to take care of our baby.
Most of the classes we took were helpful, but they were missing something. Everything we heard was "scripted," and it almost felt like nobody could give you a real answer (It frankly felt like they couldn't tell much to avoid any possible legal issue).
After a few of those classes (Which I still recommend attending, especially the CPR one), my wife and I still had tons of questions and uncertainties.
That's when we decided to look for a doula.
We met Alex through a referral, and we felt immediately confident that she was going to be the right person to guide us through the process.
Before having her becoming our official doula, we met a few times, to understand if she was right for us and if we were right for her.
The process is so intimate that it's essential that everyone feels comfortable and completely open.
Alex, little by little, gave us a new perspective of the before, during, and after pregnancy. She gave us invaluable tips and suggestions that made a huge difference in the way we approached the whole process.
She gave us confidence and clarified all our questions. She listens to your needs, understands your personalities, and tailors your experience for what she thinks is the best for you. It's up to you to open up and tell her what makes you feel comfortable and what not.
One common misconception I heard is that all doulas are all following a holistic or religious approach. That's not true with Alex. You tell her what is essential for you, how you would like to experience the pregnancy and she'll do her magic.
She was by our side the entire time, before, during, and after our baby was born. Thanks to Alex, my wife spent most of the time during her contractions at home. Yes, Alex fantastically timed everything, which made things way more comfortable for my wife.
Once at the hospital, I would have never imagined dancing with my wife during the hours before she delivered, but that happened because Alex recommended us to bring a speaker and play songs that would make us comfortable, and feel like home. Most importantly, my wife achieved an unmedicated vaginal birth, which is precisely what she was hoping for.
Unfortunately, after the delivery, there were some unexpected complications. Alex went above and beyond. She was there helping us going through difficult decisions. When things went unexpected, Alex was there in the OR standing by my wife.
Luckily, not only did we have Alex, but also a fantastic medical team, and things went fine. We now have a wonderful little girl, and Alex became our babysitter (when she's not supporting other moms and dads).
I can't recommend Alex enough; she's a beautiful person. I proudly call her sister.
I understand that financially it may not be an option for some families, but if you are lucky to be able to afford this, I wouldn't think twice. She made THE difference. Having said that, her price was way more affordable compared to others.
A last and fundamental note I'd like to share is around the role of dads. Let me get this straight: Dad's role is equally important, and you have to be there for mom and baby. There is so much stuff going on emotionally and physically, that if you are not there for them, things can become difficult for everyone. Again, I have to thank my sister Alex for having guided me each step of the way. read more