Regarding Chia-Hui Neilly, a non American citizen provider at The Children Center. I sponsored this woman to come to the U.S. back in 2007. I feel like I spent years helping her build the life and career she wanted, and now that she has it, I'm no longer needed. I owned a grey market business in Holland Michigan which she discreetly helped me run for a while and used these funds that were earned to further her education and career.
She was in school almost constantly for years, for nursing certification in the U.S., Masters and DNP, and Psych Certification and I supported her through it all. I took on a lot of the childcare, watched the kids, handled things around the house, and made sacrifices so she could focus on school and her career. I did it because I thought we were building a better future together.
Now she has two full-time jobs working 15 hours per day, earns good money, and she is completely focused on moving forward with our two daughters age 10 and 13, without me. It feels like her career and financial independence have become more important than the marriage or the person who helped her get there.
I asked her to go to counseling because I was willing to listen, accept responsibility, and work on changing. She refuses and says we are already past that. read more