Update:
I just want to say that the actual people who work at TMR are life-changing and amazing. Every single person there, down to the person who helped us make our "homes" look nice daily, is important.
Dr. Garber, Gejia C, Coral G, Nita, KENDRA and Abby, Dr. Chynwye,....I will never, ever forget you. Please don't stop doing what you do - we need you!
I loved my experience, it changed my life.
Type of ED: anorexia- pure restrictive type
I hope this Q&A format helps.
Do you have a daily schedule? TMR has a packed daily schedule with some time for journaling (in your recovery journal or on your own), and weekends have less programming. However, you are never "on your own" - everyone is monitored for obvious reasons. The programs are DBT based, and they include CoDA too. (Codependents Anonymous). The model they use to treat patients is based on the philosophies of Pia Mellody.
Was there a lot of down time? Not at the acute level house, which is where time is spent to become medically stable. It seemed like programming was more steady and had a smaller patient-to-therapist ratio (programs are usually led by a therapist). The "php" level houses have slightly more down time and schedules aren't always as rigid, but there is always an opportunity to engage in meaningful activities. It just depends on what you make of it and how hard you want to work.
Were you able to meet with your therapist and dietician when needed? Like any medical facility, they do rotations and try to see everyone equally. If you are there for a long time and your therapist is out of town for any length of time, you are able to work with another therapist in their stead. There's always support; weekends have good support, although not quite as available as during the M-F days.
Was staff available 24/7? you are monitored 24/7 by at least 1 RN and 1-2 Techs. You never flush your own toilet, you never will be alone - so yes, 24/7. (there is some "buddy flushing" at the most independent point of treatment, but you are never alone for real.)
How often were you allowed to go outside? It was hot, so we could only go out in the early AM before it became hot; early Mornings and late afternoon/evening if it was light out and if it was less than 95 degrees.
Did they really have a therapy dog? yes - but they are visiting a lot of people, so you don't get a ton of time with the dog. You get equine weekly, so you are in touch with animals often, and the equine portion is standard programming. "Riding" isn't always possible based on medical stability, but the programming and interaction with them is standard from day 1, unless the patient is confined to the house in extreme cases.
How often is "Family Week" held? Probably about 2 times a month - it's intense and they do it about 3-4 families at a time. Highly recommend.
Can you smoke? yes. Smoking is limited to once after eating.
Vape? no.
Meals: 3 major, 3 snacks.
Can you check out anytime? you must give 72 hours notice. So, if you get there and decide you want to leave, you have to stay 3 days.
Overall:
Trust them - trust the process. Science backs everything they do. They leave nothing to chance: your weight, your dietary needs, your overall health...these are under intense watch daily. Also, they are there to help you live and thrive. Your disorder wants you to think they are doing something wrong, but that is just another way for your ED to "win". Fight hard and do the right thing for yourself. read more