The most accurate way to describe him, and the truth behind his claim of "care", is this: trusting him with my most private thoughts felt like letting a doctor examine you for his own inappropriate satisfaction instead of for your well-being. It was a long, steady betrayal. His soft, caring mask was a façade. This was never about being a good therapist; it was about being a decent human being when no one is watching, and he failed at even that. I believed vulnerability would be met with help, not used as a weapon. He used to be a better person back in 2017-2019, but then he began to place himself above others, acting as if he knew better, and allowed himself to be dehumanizing, patronizing, and belittling without noticing or correcting it. I removed my review months ago because he convinced me I was projecting, and I didn't want to damage his career unfairly. But the harm didn't fade. It seeped into every part of my life. Therapy can cause irreversible damage, and he showed how: he went after my confidence and sense of self first. Months later, I still struggle to speak or feel like myself. No therapist is allowed to do this and then walk away because he feels like "checking out." "Do no more harm" meant nothing to him. In his final message, he told me it was good that I'd never trust anyone the way I trusted him. He succeeded, he frightened me out of connection, pushed me into isolation, and never once acknowledged what he'd done. Protecting his ego mattered more than understanding my reality. For years I crawled myself to his office through shame and anxiety, shaking, sweating, avoiding his eyes, digging my nails into my skin, trying to share pain with him. He was supportive at times, but he does not care whether you are dead or alive, and he refuses to do any extra work when his perspective or method is hurting you. Repeatedly he triggered trauma responses and then deflected, denied, or acted as if it was my fault. Intimacy and trust meant nothing to him unless it fed his ego. When it didn't, he withdrew, withheld support, and used the very wounds he knew about to destabilize me again. I tried to repair the relationship and told him what hurt. He didn't listen. He dismissed me, labeled me, and repeated the same behaviors. When I requested my records, I was stunned, shallow notes, missing every harmful moment, packed with meaningless trivia like me showing him a necklace. He erased anything that showed his misconduct. I still can't tell whether he lies or truly doesn't understand, but he gaslights and deflects with such ease that you start doubting your own memory. I trusted him more than myself, and he never earned that trust. He sides with men reflexively, hides behind a "supporting women" persona, and becomes demeaning and passive aggressive when a strong woman shows vulnerability. I cried fewer than ten times in more than 300 sessions, often only because he cried first so I felt safe that he won't get cold and unempathetic instead of being open to talk about it. When I lost a close family member, he refused to let me speak about her because I didn't have a grave photo. There were many moments like that, all unresolved because he chose DARVO every time. There is no consistency in his work and little ethical grounding. He abandoned me at the worst time, knowing I could barely speak. He avoids difficulty and punishes vulnerability in subtle, passive aggressive ways. He should not have the power a therapist holds. He doesn't grasp the damage he causes, and he belittles clients to protect his self-image. I saw a drastic shift between how he treated me when I had a prestigious job and how he treated me when I was unemployed. He absorbs clients' status as his own, and any threat to that affects how he behaves. After eight years, instead of closure, he made a retaliatory call filled with demeaning, humiliating comments, almost pleased to strike when I was frozen and unable to speak. Months later, I'm still struggling to find my voice. In hindsight, I see the pattern clearly: he used me like an object, broke me, discarded me, and then blamed me. Deeply unethical therapist. read more

I was so hopeful that Dr. Shamlou would help me with the difficult things I've been going through. Unfortunately, I regret going to him because I was trying to be real, raw, and vulnerable and he would make judgmental and condescending remarks at me. He said a lot of unhelpful and hurtful comments and I'm disappointed. I hadn't been in therapy for years because of insecurities and feeling misunderstood and yet again I faced the same issues with him. I would leave his office feeling even worse than before. I got tired of constantly defending myself and feeling unheard and unsafe during sessions. I already feel that in the outside world and I shouldn't feel that in therapy where I'm supposed to feel "safe". I was already uncomfortable going to therapy and facing my past problems and he made me feel even more uncomfortable by poking at my wounds instead of being supportive and understanding. I need(ed) help and support and all I got was passive aggressive remarks and it felt like he just didn't care. I feel like I wasted my time trying to seek help and I wish I never bothered. read more

Dr.Shamloo is the greatest therapist I've ever seen. I already tried couple of people through my insurance in the past couple of years, and by far he is the best. He has such an amazing attitude and listen to you patiently. Totally recommend him if you are looking for someone caring and knowledgeable. He's very smart, trustworthy, understanding. You will not get disappointed. In one word he is FANTASTIC. read more

Like the other reviews are saying, Shamlou is incredible. I'm really glad my friends told me about him. Just a few weeks in and I'm feeling much better. I'm pretty sure that one day I'll look back at this as one of the best life changing impacts. read more

Mr. Shamlou is very knowledgeable and helpful. In our experience he had a tendency to take the males point of view and sympathize with the husband which was very obvious even to my husband, but all in all he was helpful in some areas and I would recommend him to others depending on their situation. read more

The 5 stars ALL go to the doctor! He's the man! We love him very much He's super laid back , clearly experienced, and humble! HOWEVER as a former clerical worker/ receptionist of 5 years .. the girls in the front are problematic as hell! Mind you its not always their fault a lot of the times its verification or anything that can go a muck with paperwork, but their attitudes can be MUCH better. They can be really impossible especially over the phone! Best go in person less sas in your face when you're standing in-front of them. Ive brought it to the directors attention before. read more

I came to see Dr. Kiyanoosh Shamlou because I was having problems being stuck in between a Persian mom and Persian girlfriend. Dr. Shamlou had the requisite knowledge of human behavior, knowledge of Persian culture and was an extremely skilled analyst. He was able to provide guidance on how to take steps to manage my relationships and to become free and happy again. Although it was a tough road at times, it is very worth digging deep into one's issues in order to get to the other end of therapy. There is light at the end of the tunnel. The unfortunate thing is that one one person gets freedom from negativity, toxic relationships and/or abusive relationships, the other side can develop a feeling of animosity towards anyone who helped the victim to become free. So basically, this guy has helped me tremendously in my life, though my mom and girlfriend both are pissed off at him because I'm my own man now and have pretty clear boundaries set up finally. read more