Don't waste your time/money/energy on donner.
Our family was involved in a high conflict custody dispute and donner came highly recommended. Although I can't go into all the details, he was not worth his exorbitant $40,000 fee he charged.
Donner was suppose to do an extensive evaluation of both parents and each family. The pathogenic parent in our case, admitted that their mother used cocaine while pregnant with them, and that their parents were heavily into drugs during the first six years of their life. Anyone who has taken psychology 101 knows that first few years of a child's life are the formative years and that a disruption, such as the one described above, can cause many, many issues. Donner didn't even bother looking into these facts, even though the pathogenic parent has a history of strained relationships and has conflict with every single person in their family (conflict they've now passed onto their children).
There were also many disorders that were glaringly obvious in our case (cross generational coalition, triangulation, attachment trauma, trauma re-enactment, etc. all these disorders can and SHOULD have been tested for) but donner ignored all the red flags.
Donner simply picked the parent he liked more and overlooked everything else. We paid $40,000 for his OPINION. An opinion that could NOT be backed up by any scientific psychological knowledge.
The pathogenic parent in our dispute didn't believe the children's relationship with their other parent was valuable or relevant. This was a fact known to everyone. Donner allowed this parent to continue controlling the minor children's relationship and did absolutely nothing to address all of the issues our case presented.
But don't worry, donner did offer to have another look at our case for an additional $10,000. What a bargain! We opted to NOT continue paying him to do nothing to help us.
For any parent who is suffering from parental alienation and has lost time, and relationships with your kids, my heart goes out to you. I hope you're able to find a psychologist who can help you. No family should ever have to go through the pain of losing kids who they dearly love. Please read about family systems therapy, find a psychologist who will use it, create a treatment plan, test for disorders, and who values your children's relationship with both parents. Sadly you are not alone in your pain, and I'm so sorry for anyone suffering as our family has. read more