Dr Abuav has overall been very opinionated and unprofessional with me.
She has also referred to me as a 'perfectionist' during some of my visits the past few years.
I thought years of toleration would help do the trick and eventually she would stop name calling me and constantly making remarks about my personality. But she did not. On December 6, 2014, she called me "opinionated" to me and my family members after the lupus conference. (The irony of it is, she seems rather Opinionated herself whenever she talks to me, listening to herself more than she listens to the patient). The year before when I saw her for foot lesions and endless other lupus problems, she said that I was always "one of those pessimistic ones with those views."
Over the years she has also called me 'a perfectionist' and other names of all kinds with the attempt to always put me in a box and label me.
Virtually, every single time I came in to see her these past 2-3 years, she would always make at least one comment about me. And most of her comments about me were not even true! It just went to show how little she knew about me in the first place! Secondly, it's really not any of her business. The bottom line is that she really shouldn't be making such comments in the first place. She is unprofessional and very suggestive. She always asks leading questions in place of objective ones.
One time she even told me how my "mood was horrible", and that I 'should see the therapist that her mom was seeing.' ( I have one of the most severe cases of lupus, as even determined by her. I've come to her for help- I'm in pain and agony all over, breaking out with skin lesions like crazy, at the very least, my lungs and brain aren't functioning properly from the lupus- OF COURSE IM going to be in a bad mood!) Perhaps Dr. Abuav should try having lupus for a few days to really 'get it.'
Is it really appropriate for dr. Abuav to be telling me these things during my appointments to treat my skin?
She would also ask a lot of leading questions instead of objective ones, where she's looking for answers she wants to hear, not what I am really saying to her. Very suggestive.
Expecting certain answers from me, but was never really interested in what I truly had to say.
I tried to reach her several times in November and early December. She said not to email her, so I asked her the best fax to reach her. She never responded.
I addressed all of my cumulative concerns with her in email on:
She did not respond.
I re- sent this email to her following up- still no email reply that I asked her for or even a phone conversation. No response.
So not only has dr Abuav been highly unprofessional and practiced inappropriate behaviors, she now refuses to communicate with me when she was given several opportunities to work it out with me.
I asked Monica to speak to the person in charge of handling complaints. She refused to give that info to me.
In addition to all of the above, Abuav said around November 2013 that "I had chilblains lupus.' I told her that as a patient, I never heard what that was, and therefore asked her to explain it. She refused to explain it to me and told me to 'look it up myself' and that she 'will not explain it to me.'
Is all of the above appropriate ongoing behavior from any doctor? Should Dr. Abuav be making constant remarks about a patient's personality and character? Even if the things she said were true, this is complete unprofessional behavior, period and none of her business. I definitely deserve an apology from dr Abuav at the very least. Disciplinary action definitely should be in the picture. Her delivery is antagonistic, pessimistic, and unprofessional. She imposes her own beliefs onto you. I hope she is not doing this to other patients.
Abuav dishes out, but she can't take it back. Although she is knowledgeable about dermatology, I would not recommend her. If you're willing to put up with her abuse, go see her. But I just found a better dermatologist that does not have any of the drama Abuav has. There is better out there. read more
