WOWZA! Came into town for my sisters graduation.. waited 20 minutes for a drink at the bar and finally the bartender with a brown ponytail came up to me after ignoring us for SO long. I told him what I wanted and then turned around to my sisters boyfriend right behind me to find out what he wanted (since we had waited so long so I figured, I'd get his too..) I was told by a the pony tail bartender that I took too long (literally turned around for 2 seconds after paying $10 each to wait 20 minutes for a drink). He then proceeded to only serve the guys around us.
When he finally looked at my sister a few minutes later, she told him the drink that she wanted and then asked about the margarita deal tonight. Apparently that was too much work... so he moved on to a different person? She rightfully so asked "what the hell" as he continued to only serve the men at the bar and called him out for it. He did not deny only serving men, and said if she didn't like it to "go somewhere else". At that point, her and her boyfriend went to the other end of the bar to get a new bartender. After she did, the same bartender standing right infront of me proceeded to laugh in her direction with another man at the bar, and out loud refer to her as "that little b***h" while I was standing RIGHT there. At this point I had had MORE than enough with the white male entitlement bs? looked him in the eyes, and gave him the bird (I fully understand this is not the best response and I should be the bigger person but I'm honestly over it, so I'm sorry but I'm not sorry....) After giving the finger, I did not engage in further words or actions, and immediately walked to the other end of the bar where my sister and her boyfriend were standing. If he can call her a "b***c I surely have the right to flip him off in response??? Apparently not according to The Verve. Only male employees may offend female customers. That's it.
The bartender followed me to the other end of the bar and began yelling at me (no clue what, I assume something very arrogant and ignorant??). My sisters boyfriend stepped in front of me (with the bar between the boys) to get him away from me. He then leaned further over the bar trying to get into my sisters boyfriends' face as bf was telling him to just walk away. Another bartender in a bandana also stepped in (whom has been an absolute creep to girls in the past, according to all the girls graduating this weekend) was asking my sisters boyfriend (who literally had nothing to do with it, he was standing behind us at the bar) to "meet out back".
We were then told to leave by security after literally being followed and antagonized BY THE BARTENDERS. When we asked why we were getting kicked out the girl literally said "I was on your side until you flipped him off, but I can't defend that". When I asked why it was okay for him to call us a bitch and try to fight us, but not for us to give the bird in response, she just got quiet and escorted us out. We asked for a refund of our $10 covers since we were literally never even able to get a drink in the 40 minutes we were there, treated like trash for.. being women...? And we were told "they don't have the power to do that". Seemed as if everyone there new the bartender was wrong but in classic fashion, defended him rather than the girls
I would have rather flushed $30 down the toilet than paid that in cover fees for this small, crowded, hot, awful bar. Also, as someone from chicago who frequents ALL kinds of bars ALL the time and pays wayyy too much money to do so... I have never paid a cover fee for a bar this small and this terrible of service IN MY LIFE. Do youself a favor and just go somewhere else. Or just skip the bar altogether. Just don't give your money to this place I will not be back and if I do, it will solely be to ensure the managers understand how misogynistic and arrogant their bartenders are. And if they are actually okay with that.. even bigger red flag.
Dear bartender with the pony tail and bartender with the bandana... as a mental health professional it is very apparent that you are overcompensating for a lack of masculinity in the way you disrespect women and think its... funny/acceptable...? Haha, ew. Meet me out back. I dare ya.
Sincerely "the b****" who politely asked for a drink at the bar they paid $10 to get into the night before graduation. read more