Had a great time at the Alt Drag show. Great performance, good drinks all around nice bar.

As part of pride month my friends and I decided to stop by XY Bar. However, we quickly realized how unfriendly they are towards patrons that don't speak english as their first language. We ordered some amaretto sours and enjoyed those. However, when ordering our second round we had to repeat our order several times due to the noise levels in the establishment but were caught extremely off guard when the bartender asked if "you guys even speak english". When confronted about these comments she argued the nature of her comments and yelled at us to "get the f**k out". We've never experienced anything like this in our time in the states and think it is worth sharing. read more

Wow I'm shocked that this bar is in wichita let alone in downtown wichita. We stopped by on a Friday night and I was a bit disappointed. The decor isn't very flattering and the music is just a hodgepodge of random hits from all of the decades. This is definitely a gay friendly bar with a wide range of clientele which is good to see diversity but really is something I wouldn't visit again. The plus side is that it's conveniently located in downtown and there is no cover. Or maybe it's because I went on a Friday instead of a drag night. ‍ read more

1st time here, great crowd, drinks were so yummy and very reasonable priced. Had dj and dancing

I'm a lesbian who went looking for some gay fun. I got groped by more straight men than I've ever been in my life. Fellas, back the f*ck up and go to a straight bar! read more

The least gay gay bar I've ever been to in my life. Gayest thing that happened all night was when they played 45 seconds of WAP.

The bar is fine but the regular are not that great of people. I have been bully and followed in the bar. People are just creepy everywhere even in gay bar unfortunately read more

I usually have a good time when I go to XY with my friends. Cheap drinks and usually no cover. Bartenders are usually nice and attentive although the younger ones can sometimes have attitude. Security is attentive and friendly as well. If you get there too late you will probably have to wait in line for a while but not too bad. Would recommend. read more

Terrible place, horrendous staff. Never go. But if you do, have fun smelling the worst BO you can possibly imagine on the dance floor or waiting 20+ minutes for the bartender to get to you. Bouncers have room temperature IQs. Will allow you to get molested to death but god forbid you get drunk at this poor excuse for a nightclub because they'll throw you right out. Avoid at all costs. read more

The ownership should feel free to contact me. While in town on 9/20 and 9/21 I stopped in twice as I've been a fan from afar, I'm supportive of LGBTQ inclusive nightlife in Wichita. While I no longer live in Wichita I think it's great that there's a dance space for the cimmunity, and you have the perfect location. While XY was virtually empty on both nights, I was more baffled by the fact that someone would invest money to open a venue resembling a 90's college bar. The decor was uninspired, and the country music seemed an odd choice considering you could get that at 10 other clubs. Not differentiating XY from the run of the Mill is extremely shortsighted, 'because people can drink for a lot less at home,' if you want them to come out then give them a Sexy reason. Additionally, I know that high caliber, attractive, intelligent bar staff is very difficult to come by in some market, but you may want re-evaluate the criteria you are using during the interview process for your customer facing employees. After leaving XY on 9/21 I posted my disappointment to the XY FB page. Shortly thereafter the bartender/bareback from XY (A round faced middle aged gender nonconfirming person with a beard and Slightly thinning, frayed but long hair (Colored with a fantastic shade of Smoke) pulled into the Parking lot of The Rain bar & buffett, jumped from his vehicle and confronted me about my Short and Respectful FB post. His hands were visibly shaking while he paced between me and the back door of the Rain Buffett & Club. He proceeded to yell, "Just because you're from New York City doesn't mean you're better than us!(I am from Wichita btw) You were disrespectful to us and you are rude!!" A woman who may have been his grandmother began yelling something unintelligible yet belligerent for the passenger side of the vehicle. I calmly explained my post and asked the rotund and slightly unhinged man, " If you can't address the issues with XY, why are you here talking to me? Why are you stalking me?" I want my LGBTQIA friends to have a beautiful and safe place to party in Wichita, XY could be that place. However, allowing your employees to stalk tourists off your premises to verbally assault them on your behalf is antithetical to what a customer dependent bar/club should be about. I do hope that you have a heart to heart with this gender non-conforming employee and his grandmother about the danger and Liability of accosting paying customers on your behalf. Best wishes, thoughts and prayers. Terrance read more

If I could give this place 0 stars I would. Their incompetent and uneducated staff gatekeeped an entirely empty establishment, turning away people who were 21+ since they clearly weren't trained to tell the difference between a real ID and a fake one. I'm honestly not sure if the gargoyles at the front door thought I looked like their ex or estranged father but the bitterness was tactile. Show up with your passport and birth certificate to ensure entry to a forgettable evening. read more

I have been going to this bar for a bit, but then one night I got bumped into on the dance floor and I accidentally spilled my drink. I wasn't sure what to do but I decided to be nice (I thought) and tell an employee, because I assumed it might be a safety hazard and someone can clean it up. Well I go over to the bar, wait a long time just for the bartender to rudely tell me " we'll what do you want me to do about it?" And I was like whatever I'll just clean it myself and I felt bad. Well I'm walking towards the bathroom to get some napkins, and this tall ass security guard starts getting in my face and blocking me from walking and he was telling me I had to go for spilling a drink and I was like what that's dumb (first drink on the night mind you) and I was like well let me tell my friends and he didn't even let me do that, I felt like I was getting arrested! And he literally was on my back as he was "walking" me and I was so done at the that point I shouted F you and this club at the door in front of people and then was changed his story saying I can come back in, he thought I had puked on the dance floor! Literally bs and I just was like no f this place and I went the ally and cried by myself. Friendly gay allies? I don't think so! And they always have shit music playing too...smh read more

It's aaight. Music is kinda wack, heavy on House music. All normal music is remixed w/house beats. Diverse crowd w/a variety of ages. Drinks are ok. Male bartender was attentive, don't know his name. Women bartenders not attentive. read more

So the place is nice. I had a great time. I spent quite a bit on drinks and had a blast. The atmosphere was wonderful. Why the 1 star you may ask, well at 2:42 am when I tried t use the rest room before leaving for my 40 minute drive home they would not let me use the restroom. They told me it was closed. Being older (42) I didn't feel discriminated against until the end of the night. I explained I had a long drive home and even offered to show my id to prove I don't live in Wichita. They didn't care. I just about urinated on myself just walking out the door. If it wasn't for the fact I would of had wet pants for the long drive home I would have just urinated on my way out. I would t have been been rude about it but hey after 3 kids it's kind of hard to hold it as you walk. So maybe don't age discriminate please. read more

This was the first time I checked this place out. We came on July 3rd and there was nobody there. I wasn't sure if it was because it was a weekday or if it is a normal occurrence. Anyways they had a drink special so that was pretty awesome. I will warn you that if you come here you may see some stuff on their tv so be prepared. I would have liked to hear other music here and not a ton of covers that are looped. This place had a huge jenga set so we played with it and it was a lot of fun. I would come back if I was in town. read more

More of a very gay friendly bar with varying levels of actual gay clientele. Definitely affordable. Diverse demographics, to a certain point. Friendly staff; some outdoor seating; coat check; ample security; even met the owner. DJ's mixing was a bit poor & the general lighting seemed a bit too bright at the peak of the night. read more

Not ran professionally at all. My son broke up with a door greater and it was the normal break up , and she didn't want him coming there with his new girlfriends so management won't allow him there when she is there . read more

I'm a big fan of more inclusive bars in little ol Wichita, but lately I haven't been able to get behind XY. The music that is played more often than not you can't even dance to because the DJ is to busy doing tricks rather than actually playing DANCE music. I love that there is no cover charge, but the music and honestly security really need to step it up. There are always fights and very skeezy guys who just creep around the dance floor. When XY first open it felt safe and exciting and HELLA gay which I LOOOVEE but now it feels like it caters more to the straight agenda. Not mad, just disappointed. read more

I was in town on business a 4-6 weeks ago when I stepped inside what was billed as a gay bar. Much to my surprise when I seen a few rainbows and a bunch of straight people. I ordered a drink from what I think is the boss, nice lady I think her name was MJ. She was so polite and made me feel welcome! Next stop I was off to the stage and asked the girl DJ to play a song and she happily obliged. On Saturday I went back and wow the DJ GUY was an complete and utter jerk. Said he didn't have time and couldn't be bothered. So as I walk away I'm grabbed on the arm by a short middle aged chubby man who claims to be the owner. He said to me how beautiful I am and that he needs me. He appeared to be completely wasted as he mumbled. However he was sober enough to offer me cash to go with him. I walked away and someone who I met told me he was the owner and had a husband. Later in the evening as I was in the bathroom in comes said owner who then grabs my genitals after I yelled at him I dropped my drink on floor and left. Never coming back to this establishment while here on business or pleasure. Didn't enjoy the straight bar vibe or being sexually harassed. read more