My wife and I came to Brett for premarital counseling, and because it helped so much, we continued…read moreinto couples therapy.
We definitely love each other, but we were struggling because we were stuck in some painful patterns, including miscommunication, jumping to conclusions, getting triggered, defensiveness, taking things personally that weren't meant that way, and staying stuck in our own points of view instead of really hearing each other. These patterns created a lot of unnecessary and very painful conflict between us. For example, small misunderstandings would quickly turn into big fights that dragged on forever and often left us not speaking at all for days.
To help us with this, Brett helped each of us work through and resolve many of our individual issues that had been contributing to many of our conflicts. He also taught us a much healthier and more effective way of communicating. He slowed us down, helped us learn how to actually hear each other, and guided us toward deeper emotional connection.
During our sessions, Brett taught us a number of very practical tools that have made an enormous difference. One of the most powerful was learning how to check in with each other about what each other actually said versus what we thought we heard, instead of just reacting to our own assumptions. For example, if things started to escalate in our sessions, one of the many ways Brett would help was to gently pause us and have each of us repeat what the other person actually said before responding. This helped us see how often our assumptions were off. That shift alone has helped us respond to each other in a much more accurate and thoughtful way, rather than just reacting to our own interpretations and misunderstandings. This, along with everything else Brett did to help us, has been absolutely huge for us!
Couples therapy with Brett has truly been life-changing for us. He has a remarkable ability to identify the core of a problem and guide you toward practical ways of addressing it. As a result, our conflicts have decreased dramatically. And when disagreements do come up, we're now able to resolve things much faster and reconnect with genuine understanding and emotional closeness.
We've both definitely put in the work, that's for sure. But, it's clear to us that the progress we made would not have been possible without Brett's professional insight, skill, and steady guidance.
I also want to say how calming, supportive, and accepting Brett is as a therapist. He's thoughtful, non-judgmental, and deeply caring, and he creates a space where we feel safe opening up, sharing honestly, and really doing the deeper work.
I would wholeheartedly recommend Brett to any individual or couple who is struggling, and who wants a highly skilled psychotherapist and couple therapists to help them heal, grow, and significantly improve their well-being and their relationship. Highly recommended!
