The business of birthing is a crazy arena.
On one hand, you have the assembly-line production of a place like Baptist, which is set up to crank out babies regardless the costs to the mother. Sure, it has pretty rooms and massages, but it is all about the c-sections and interventions.
On the other hand, you have a group like the Vanderbilt Nurse Midwives. Really the focus there is on the mother and child, and their safety, not making sure the baby comes out so the doctor can hit his tee time. And the really cool thing is that they are totally impartial and non-judgmental; no matter what way you choose to have your kid, they have your back. The rooms at Vandy may not have rich Corinthian leather recliners, but if something goes wrong, you're right there in one of the best hospitals in the country.
With our first child, they were fantastic from an education and reassurance standpoint. I think one thing that is truly missing from medical professionals nowadays is the ability to empathize and frankly have a conversation. Not so here. Everyone that I have met through this practice has been amazing. My wife's primary nurse midwife is Linda Hughlett who has been a fantastic resource of advice and guidance for my wife.
For the birth of our first child, my wife was in labor for 41 hours, so it was kind of a rollercoaster ride. It took so long that we went through two of the nurse midwives, Emma Gensert, who managed to be energetic, positive and supportive for over 12 hours, and Soheyl Asadsangabi who came in for the end with all new positive energy to help my wife get the job done. They were a great team, working with the nurses and our doula seamlessly and very flexible when the plans changed and my wife decided to get an epidural at hour 36.
With our second kid, we had the amazing care of Melissa Allred and a nurse midwife in training, Sarah. While we were really only in their care for around four hours, it was wonderful how positive and supportive of us they were during the process. I can never thank them enough and with their help, my wife ended up delivering unmedicated! The Vanderbilt Nurse-Midwives were also recently featured in a new TLC series, "Baby's First Day".
So, if you want a birthing experience without an agenda, centered around the needs of the mommy and baby, combined with a level of care that unusual in this day and age, this is the way to go. Oh yeah, and dads, get a doula, at least for your first one. It's the best thing you can do as an impending parent, short of buying scotch. read more