I think people looking for a good charity should throw money wantonly in the direction of Big Brothers Big Sisters. These are seriously a great bunch of people doing the right things for the right reasons. Signing my boys up for big brothers was something I'd thought about doing for a long time, but held off on for one reason or another. I think one factor for me may have been the (totally fallacious) belief that there would be a daunting application process, lots of paperwork, and/or that there would be some kind of low-income requirement and we wouldn't qualify. I don't know why I thought all of this, but in case such mental wanderings might be a barrier for anyone else considering this organization, I'd like to jump up on your sofa jubilantly and yell, "IT'S TOTALLY EASY AND IT ONLY TOOK US A MONTH TO GET ROLLING AND YES, YES, DO IT, DO IT NOW!"
I think I pulled something, but I hope I made my point. Graham was our match coordinator, an utterly sweet strapping guy who disarmingly interviewed the boys in our own house, in a way that didn't feel threatening or formal, and made his quiet notes, then disappeared, telling us it COULD take up to two or three months.
But within a couple of weeks, he'd found young men to pair up with both my boys, and you could tell much thought had been given to the pairings. My older son (let's just call him Eeyore) struggles with self-esteem issues and is highly verbal. He was paired with a kind, thoughtful and extremely well read attorney who's an exceptional listener. This was brilliant. His "big" (yeah, that's what they call 'em) told him he should feel absolutely free to call or text him, even to just help with homework, whatever.
The very next day, my son was fabricating homework :D And, before his trip to Costa Rica, his "big" texted him well wishes for the flight. (she wipes a hormonal tear from her eye).
My younger son fared equally well and was also asking for some time with his big brother the very next day. The boys are very open about wanting to hang out with a paternal figure--they don't even disguise this fact--so I am thrilled to say it has exceeded both my expectations and even my hopes so far. Every step of the way has been stellar with Big Brothers Big Sisters. I send you guys a humble, bent-knee bow of gratitude; you're making a huge difference by doing what you do. read more