My middle daughter attended Lindenmere for three summers, from the ages 10-13. The first two years, the camp was run by husband and wife, Monica and Oddie. A few weeks before year three started, they left to start their own camp. Mitch,The owner of Camp Lindermere had his adult children, Kyle and Hayley, who had attended and worked at Lindenmere take over managing the camp.
Up to this point, my daughter had loved camp and developed deep & meaningful relationships.
Unfortunately, Hayley, did not like my daughter and blamed her for several events that summer. She never fact checked and my daughter wasn't mature enough to speak up or defend herself. We had limited access to her. She was vulnerable in their care. Other parents called me, affirming their child told them that my daughter was being targeted.
When I spoke with Hayley and her associate Wendy, they said my daughter was rude.I asked for an example, Wendy shared that my daughter did not say "good morning to her, but rather rolled her eyes" I asked are you sure she heard you? And their response was screaming at me "YOUR DAUGHTER IS RUDE! YOU JUST CAN'T ACCEPT IT". If they spoke to me in this unprofessional way, and I am the client and an adult, I can't imagine how they speak to the campers. If my daughter was rude (which I am not excusing) aren't you professionals that deal with children? Don't you have any training in how to effectively handle these situations? Ironically, when camp ended there was a photo in which Wendy and my daughter were both in and my daughter said "oh, that's Wendy, she's really nice".
Furthermore, that summer, there was a male counselor that took inappropriate photos of some of the girls. He was asked to leave. Additionally, in my daughter's bunk, one of her counselors was in a relationship with another female counselor and they slept in the bed together in the bunk. Hayley seemed to have no knowledge of this. Hayley did not seem to fact check anything and was just emotionally putting out fires. On visiting day which was the last day of camp, a counselor approached me to reassure me that my daughter was blamed for many innocents she did not participate in. We did enroll for another summer, but mid year our family decided that although my daughter desperately wanted to be with her friends, she was not emotionally safe in the environment. When I called Hayley was generous and refunded our money. She said "We don't hold grudges".
Children make mistakes, say stupid things, act inappropriately but we count on the adults to help them learn better, not to shame them or blame them. Additionally, get all the facts if you are responsible for other people's children. Take the time to get the truth. These experiences affect children.
I write this not to bad mouth Lindenmere. They did the best they could at that time and hopefully they are more experienced now. It has been an enormous loss for our family. My daughter stayed in contact with her camp friends but time has passed, the relationships have faded. My younger daughter did not want to continue without her sister so she too lost the camp experience. Both girls preferred not to try another camp. My middle daughter went on to a teen tour that she loved and made many new friends. I should also add that my daughter is well liked at school by her peers and teachers so this was a very unique experience.
I write this to hopefully help another family pick a camp. Maybe Lindmere is the perfect fit for your family. Plenty of families have had great experiences there. If I could do it again, I would had followed a more experienced camp manager, because that makes a difference. Also, a section camp is disjointed. When campers leave, the remaining kids are sad to lose their friends and have to start all over. (And Hayley did not want the remaining girls to look sad to the incoming new campers). Camp is an investment, financially and emotionally, hoping you have a great experience all the way through. read more