I had my first baby and she's now six weeks old. My mom had nine home births so I wasn't familiar with the hospital procedures... I told Dr Carbonell I wanted him to walk me through everything and keep me in the loop with what was going on. The entire pregnancy and labor he tried to do things without telling me! I had no idea what a stretch and sweep was, and definitely wasn't prepared for it when he did it. I wanted to have the labor as natural as I could and didn't get an epidural. (although he was pretty pushy about getting one) The only time I cried the entire labor was when he came in and broke my water without telling me. He also tried to cut me in the middle of a contraction while I was pushing , when I had already told him I didn't want that. Luckily my husband was there and stopped him. (I ended up having a tiny tear) Labor is scary and when someone isn't telling what they're doing it's much worse. If you're looking for someone who's going to make all the decisions for you then that's great, but I wanted to have more say in what was going on. read more