I am so disgusted with this place, would move my mom but with her dementia I know it would really confuse her. She gets the bare minimum of care when it comes to keeping her clean. Her fingernails are always filthy, I find her with a soaked diaper on. And many times she stinks so bad. My mom would never want to live this way if she realized how dirty they let her get. I have complained for 3 years nothing has changed. Her room doesn't get clean, just mopped. Not dusted and they slap the mop up on things like her fridge and closet and leave dirty mop streaks. I just want to scream that my mother does not get the care she deserves. They tell me if she doesn't want to take a bath she doesn't have to. If she doesn't want to get her toenails cut she doesn't have to and they have gotten so long that she complained her shoes hurt her because her toenails are to long. I find that so ridiculous it is just unbelievable. I have ask if she refuses to take a bath for a month then she goes without a bath for a month and they said they can't make her take a bath. Okay it's just common sense that someone has dementia they do not realize how long it's been since they had a bath. when I ask her or tell her she needs a bath she tells me, oh I just took one, I get in the tub and I wash all over everyday. She has never been in a tub since she has been there. Another thing I have been a nurses aide and I worked in nursing homes and I know how aides do when they don't want to do something. If they say they ask her and she refused who is to say they didn't ask her. I have been in there before when they ask her, they ask her one time, do you want to get a bath, my mom said no and they said, okay and walked out they didn't try to encourage her or anything because they really didn't want to do it anyways. They can say they did give her one and market down in the book when they didn't give her one. No matter how much I talk nobody hears me. She just a paycheck for them, she just fills a bed for them that's all and that's sad. Her meals, they get wrong so many times when I'm there so I can imagine how many times they get them wrong when I'm not there. They have a list of things she does not like but she gets them anyways, when I'm there I can replace it when I'm not there I don't know that they replace, why would they, because she can't tell them or she won't tell them and that's that. You just get what's sit in front of you and if you don't eat it you don't eat it. I know some days I go and she's starved, she eats and ears . That tells me she probably didn't eat the meal before. My dad was in there with her and he passed away in August and he really help take care of her. Because his dementia wasn't as bad without him there she is totally alone as far as knowing what to do and when. It is a nightmare to have somebody with dementia in a rest home. read more