Paula is kind, understanding and very thoughtful in every interaction. She has been incredible. I would highly recommend!!

Paula is really THE BEST. We've been working with her for about two years, and it has been a great experience. It is not an overstatement to say that she saved my marriage. read more

My husband and I have been meeting with Paula virtually for about a year now. It's never easy to admit when help is needed, especially within a marriage. Needless to say, we were both nervous to participate in marriage counseling. From the very first session, my husband and I felt very comfortable with Paula. She is knowledgeable and engaging but most importantly, accepting. She met us right where we were, without judgement and she has helped us to work through some very difficult situations. She has helped us identify our ineffective communication patterns and the negative cycles in which we tend to engage. She gently pushes us to talk to each other and effectively redirects us when we get off topic. She also has a good sense of humor- which is always helpful!! Even though we see her virtually, it feels like she is right there in the room with us and I would wholeheartedly reccomend her to any couples seeking solid support!!! read more

Paula is a wonderful therapist and I would not hesitate to recommend her to anyone considering couples therapy! My only regret is that my husband and I did not find Paula sooner. She has the perfect combination of expertise, experience, and compassion. Our sessions with her (and the work we did in between) truly brought us back from the brink of divorce; we started out at the point of maximum crisis in our 10-year marriage, and ended up at the point of maximum closeness! read more

Having recently celebrated another anniversary we thought we'd update our review. The other night, we were sitting in audience at an event, listening and laughing together, and it struck me that I would marry my wife all over again. I suppose that is what makes a marriage- choosing each other again and again, and most of the time this choosing is implicit, but there are other times when it becomes a very conscious thought: yes, I choose you. We continue to negotiate the differences and misunderstandings, and sometimes hurt feelings...and i can't say those negotiations are easy, but they sure are less fraught. I guess we simply trust more and tell each other more often what's going on inside ourselves. I think we both feel the other person's love on a more regular basis? Not sure how to put it exactly. But I know we wouldn't be in the good place we are without having worked with Paula. So, happy anniversary to us, and thanks again, Paula, for rooting for us - and most of all, for teaching us how to keep close to each other. Wish there were 10 stars to give. read more

We contacted Paula after what seemed like irreconcilable differences in our 43 year marriage. There was no one thing we could point to but the arguments and distancing continued and was both suffocating and frightening. We both agreed that we wanted to save our marriage and agreed to couples counseling. I was fortunate to find Paula on Yelp because I was getting discouraged looking on the internet. It's not easy opening up to a stranger but Paula offered positive support, honest observations and the knowledge and experience one would want from a therapist. I would highly recommend her to any couple looking for the highest quality of talk therapy ( EFT ). read more

As a lesbian couple, we were looking for a couple's counselor who would not only be nonjudgmental, but would treat our marriage with respect and dignity. Paula exceeded our expectations. We came to Paula with our marriage in crisis, we were stuck in a negative loop that we did not know how to get out of. She is caring and insightful and we trusted her to help heal and repair our marriage. She taught us how to recognize when we were getting stuck, improve our communication skills, rebuild trust, and honor our love for one another. A & N read more

My husband and I found Paula through Yelp, and we are so glad we did. We have been in online EFT sessions since the end of May. As we are nearing "graduation," we want to echo the sentiments of the other 5-star reviewers here. Paula has been invaluable in guiding us in our journey to more effective communication, deeper intimacy, and a lifelong connection. Paula is professional, yet warm and caring. She doesn't judge or side with one partner's feelings over the other. She is even-handed as she gently helps couples discover how to express themselves in ways that foster intimacy and respect.   We were initially concerned that Paula appeared to be located in Massachusetts but soon realized she practices out of Asheville, NC, where we live. That said, COVID required our sessions be online via Zoom. Any concerns we had about online counseling were quelled in our first session. Zoom is an excellent way to connect. My husband and I feel fortunate to have technology that allows us to "meet" with Paula and access her expertise from the comfort of our home. We encourage couples who are interested in deepening their relationship connection or working through marital issues to schedule a consultation with Paula. We have no regrets! read more

My husband and I absolutely LOVE Paula. We went into therapy with her not knowing what to expect, after years of putting it off. Trust the process, because she absolutely knows what she is doing. The EFT component is a huge help as well. I would recommend her to anyone looking for help with their marriage or relationship. All I can say is, thank you! You've saved our marriage and I will forever be grateful. We are going to miss seeing you regularly! read more

Without going into too much detail on why I started working with Paula, I will say that I wasn't exactly looking forward to dealing with these things, and talking to a complete stranger about them was the last thing I wanted to do. I was pessimistic to say the least. At that time, I really had no idea what was possible and was not completely committed to putting in effort to make the necessary changes. Enter Paula. Paula offered a safe space where I was able to talk openly about things and truly develop as a person. There were times when it was hard and uncomfortable, but Paula is so effective at being calming and fair (and very funny!) - and always understanding and finding positives in any situation. I really cannot stress enough how she was able to turn a non-believer such as myself into somebody that understood himself a great deal better and was able to make very significant progress on a personal level. I feel that she really does care about her patients on a personal level and is committed to helping them. In short, I cannot recommend her highly enough. If you are on the fence, or just don't think therapy is for you, give Paula a chance. She made such a huge positive impact on my life, and can do the same for you. (Oh, and say "hi" to the cats!) read more

My partner and I found Paula through Yelp and were very happy to find out that due to the safety concerns of the covid pandemic that she was offering sessions via Zoom. She has been influential in helping us create a deeper connection and building intimacy in our relationship. We had been stuck in negative patterns and we were able to break free from that cycle with her help and support. She made us feel so special and we could tell that she really cared about us. She is a great listener and never took sides or judged. She is a seasoned professional and knew how to gently nudge us in the right directions as she guided us thru this journey of self-discovery. We now know how to communicate our needs and emotions and our relationship is stronger now than its ever has been. We can not express how much she has helped us and what an amazing person she is. We are forever grateful! read more

My fiancé and I are forever grateful to Paula. When we first started seeing her we never would have imagined the changes and strengthening that our relationship was about to experience. Her true compassion and desire to help shone through with each meeting we had. As a leader in EFT, she guided us through this process in a comfortable and competent way. We recommend her in a heartbeat. read more

My wife and I cannot recommend Paula strongly enough. She taught us how open and honest communication is essential to building intimacy and our relationship is stronger now than it ever has been. Paula is a great listener, extremely intelligent, and has a wealth of experience to call upon. She explains concepts with clarity and always seems to have a pertinent and profound reference at the ready to help explain an idea. Neither of us ever felt judged or favored; Paula treated us equally and got to know us both as individuals and as a couple. She is not afraid to give honest feedback and we could tell that she was very invested in our success. We left every visit feeling like we'd learned so much about one another, about oursel and how to strengthen our connection. We recommend Paula to anyone at any stage of a relationship. read more

Either this practice is closed or Paula is way behind on returning messages. I have been calling and leaving messages and emailing her for almost six months and haven't heard a thing. read more

Personally, I have seeked individual therapy for dealing with a loss of a loved one. Going into this I was very pessimistic when my own therapist suggested to seek options for my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a decade, with a turbulent few years. For us we were repeating the same patterns and unsure of our future together. We desperately needed a third party professional to step in. EFT was a new concept to me. Paula was instrumental in saving our relationship. We learned so much about each other through her guided sessions and found the tools to maintain a positive, healthy relationship. In all honesty, I would not be writing this if we had not met Paula. Our relationship is the best it's been in the past 5 years. read more

Paula is a terrific couple's therapist. She has helped us realize things about our marriage our previous therapist did not. We are already feeling more connected after just a few sessions. Paula is great at hearing both of our concerns, and styles. She is very warm, friendly, and funny, but also good at helping us through the scary, difficult parts. We found Paula and made contact through Pscyhology Today's Therapist Finder: http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_detail.php?profid=22059. We highly recommend her for anyone who wants to have a more connected and satisfying marriage or partnership. read more

Surely my husband (truly the love of my life) and I would no longer be married if it had not been for Paula. We had longstanding problems that were made worse once Covid hit. We had been to marriage counseling before, but it did not make much of an impact. Calling Paula was a last-ditch, desperate measure. We have actually never met her, having done all of our sessions on Zoom due to Covid. Even in this less than ideal scenario, Paula was very intuitive and had an uncanny ability to get to the heart of the matter. She has seen both of us at our absolute worse and still made us feel respected and heard. I guess the biggest thing I learned was that our sticking points are very common amongst troubled marriages. Using the EFT book made me see that we were getting stuck in a loop. We fed off each other. If we, individually, could stop our part in feeding it, we could perhaps keep from falling off a cliff. Ultimately, we both realized that our marriage and having the person we loved most of all in our life around, was more important than "winning". Is our marriage perfect now? Absolutely not! However, we feel we have the tools to keep ourselves from going off the deed end. Usually, we are able to work through issues by calmly (most of the time) discussing what is wrong. If we do have a blowout, we are able to make a repair using what we have learned from Paula. From the bottom of my heart, I thank you, Paula, for being the intelligent, caring, compassionate and helpful person you are. You saved us. read more

Paula's dedication to her work is invaluable. She is truly committed to the EFT process and her wealth of experience helped make the hard work that therapy is a bit easier. We will be forever grateful for the tools we learned from her and connections we formed as a couple. Having stumbled across her from reading reviews like this one, we highly recommend you give her a call. read more

Just a brief update to say that our life as a couple continues to be excellent -- a major improvement in our lives. Paula was the instrument of this improvement, and I still recommend her highly read more

I know I speak for my husband as well as for myself when I say that Paula Zerfoss saved our marriage. We had been to other couples therapists and, while it was nice to have 50 minutes a week of "safe space" where we could talk about what was bothering us, we didn't feel like we were making real progress. Then we found Paula. She offered the same safe space, but we finally felt like we were getting somewhere - therapy was work and we embraced it. We are happier and more content as a couple and as individuals now than we have ever been, and feel like we are truly in a meaningful and balanced partnership. Paula helped us develop the tools we need to broach difficult subjects, disagree constructively, etc. I know I'm gushing, and believe me, therapy is hard and uncomfortable, but I really felt like Paula's brand of emotionally focused therapy worked for us. And we both appreciated Paula's matter of fact and pointed approach. She didn't let either of us off the hook. I cannot recommend her more highly. read more

Wasn't really sure what to expect with EFT, but it has been instrumental in breaking down the unforeseen barriers between my partner and me. We have both flourished after sessions with Paula, not only due to the EFT techniques, but also through her nurturing care and consideration that is part and parcel to the emotionally-focused therapy. Whether you're looking for someone to help you through relationship trauma or to get a marriage back on the rails, Paula is unmatched in her process. Can't recommend enough... read more

Encouraging, supportive, understanding, direct and not there to solve our relationship issues for us, but to help teach healthy communication skills to us, so that we can better our relationship for ourselves. Her space is inviting & comfortable, optimal for expressing/ sharing our feelings openly. Paula also shares important insights with us, to help understand how positive communication works best, as well as negative habits avoid, along with the reasons why. What was most important during each and every session, and what Paula always reminded us of was that the relationship was the client and not our individual selves. Thank you Paula!! Matt and Andrea read more

My husband and I HIGHLY recommend Paula. We started going to her in August, 2017. Over the years we had been to 2 other marriage counselors that did not help us so I decided to look on Yelp for recommendations. I read a very positive review and decided to go to her even though we would have to drive 45 minutes to get to her. All I can say is GO TO HER and you will not regret it and after you do, go back to Yelp and write a review to pay-it-forward so more couples can be helped. The progress we have made in our relationship has been incredible, not only have we learned about and improved our relationship but we have also learned so much about ourselves. She has also helped us with our relationship with our kids. Paula is warm, insightful, smart, compassionate, fun, and non-judgemental...overall a fantastic marriage counselor. My only regret is not having found her many years ago. Contact her and drive however long it takes to get to her. You will not be sorry. read more

We could not believe how helpful this experience was. Paula's use of EFT was extremely effective to the healing of our relationship. We are closer now than we've ever been or imagined we could be. We cannot recommend Paual enough. She was quick to build a therapeutic alliance with both of us and we felt we could trust her immediately. This paid off immensely as we continued to grow through this process. Paula is an amazing therapist! read more

My husband and I cannot speak highly enough of Paula! She is incredibly insightful and I felt understood us both as people, and as a couple, very well. She created a safe, but challenging, space for us as a pair. We both started out in a very defensive and somewhat antagonistic place, and Paula helped bring us to a completely different place where I genuinely felt like we were on the same team. We started working with as opposed to against each other. We came away much closer and stronger than we have ever been. Also, Paula is just so easy to talk to, so compassionate and non-judgmental, that it doesn't really feel like work (even though it is)! I really enjoyed and looked forward to our sessions with her, and got the sense that she actually cared about us. In fact, I actually started to tear up when Paula told us she thought we were ready to "graduate," and I forced one more session to say goodbye :) I would highly, HIGHLY recommend her to anyone even remotely considering couples' therapy; she is so good at what she does, and I feel fortunate to have found her! read more