Point Fermin park is known for many things, starting with its ocean side state, and we cannot forget its casually used amphitheater that presents Shakespeare by the Sea in summer months, and including the many wonders that green grass witnesses: the humor and play of children as they kick balls and lick melting ice cream, family reunions catered with large Doritos bags, grilled patties and wurst and deep conversations by teenage youth who have yet to know what a broken heart truly results in, not only a crush of spirit, but a void in the spirit. But today, I catalog another beautiful moment that happened on the grassy annex trails that connect to the main grounds of the park- a man asking a girl to be his girlfriend with a moment that was enhanced by production value.
My friend Conrad and I walked past the grassy Annex stretch, on a lengthy walk to meet the 10,000 suggested step requirement. And we saw a man and a woman setting something up with roses and tall. We crossed the street, as we believed we would view a rising Day of the Dead Altar. But when we were close, the woman explained that their friend was going to ask a girl he had been seeing to be his girlfriend. Then I understood, this was something between a promposal and a traditional proposal--- this was an over the top, will you be my girlfriend proposal? What can it be called? Something with the word steady? Something with the word promise? It has to be inclusive. Maybe- ?????- a rosesosal? I thought and pondered and this is where I landed. If you look at the video and pictures that corresponds to the review, the main heart is made with red roses. And I can easily imagine most proposals that make two people committed to one another, involve some type of rose. I mean, what would Valentine's day be, without bouquets and pedals--- barren, so roses are the red standard for moments like this, me thinks.
I asked the girl if we could sit in a nearby bench to view the moment. She said yes. Conrad and I sat, and viewed them setting up the arch, the electric candles, the red carpet and the other items that would make this moment a spectacle to honor love. Conrad wanted to go, he felt that we were intruding on a private moment. But, then I explained to him, from my view point, that once they decided to have this moment in a public park the planners forfeited their right to privacy. If a girl is making out with another girl in a school's hallway, during operational hours, she cannot then explain that she wants to protect her same-sex attraction from others, because she did not do her best to keep the fact a secret.
As Conrad and I were having this healthy debate, a man shouted from a moving car, "don't do it turn around!" He was maybe funny, maybe crass, but he was completely within his right to shout a stab at the romantic momeny, why, because once they decided to host their event in public sight, they invited public opinion and as we all know some people keep their opinion to themselves, and others will speak their opinion freely. However, I understand that decency demands that people respect the public actions of others, if they are meant to be a moment shared between the few. I take comfort in the fact that I awed in the moment, and cataloged for what it was--- an act of hope for days full of love.
Conrad was pushing to go. But we stayed long enough for the car to come. The girl had a blindfold on as she got out of the car. The set-up guy, hid behind a tree, all giddy in crouch, and turned on the music and sparklers as the girl approached the red carpet. I felt the joy of the moment, held on Point Fermin Park.
The girl eventually said yes, she was now half of a couple. She was honored with pomp and circumstance. She was asked to be exclusive with romance made physical. The guy most truly see this woman as the one, at least in this moment of time. The pair who helped the man asked the blindfolded girl to be his girlfriend were accomplices in act of romance that was a story for them all to carry. And I who witness the event, felt lucky to have viewed corny done right, and received well. It was a wide-screen movie moment done with high school props that landed with good feeling. In the midst of the world's pain, a girl had a roserosal that I am sure made her special, and to quote the great Riri, like she was the only girl in the world.