For the last 2 months, Kendall Fox has treated me w/the utmost contempt. He is arrogant, condescending, rude, scathingly/evisceratingly acerbic, mean-spirited, & a malignant narcissist. But that would be putting it mildly. To put it more pointedly, he behaves like a sociopath/borderline psychopath in my presence. Not sure who he's confusing me with.
Moreover, until 2 months ago, I had been visiting the Horsehead once a month (give or take) at most or once every 2-3 months at least (again, give or take). Everyone else at the Horsehead has been 100% affable towards me & I've NEVER had any problem with ANY of the bartenders there prior to him & I've been going there since '16. But since '19, I haven't gone there to drink at all as I only drank there when I was dating my ex. But even when I was drinking, I was never obnoxious or mean when I drank like Kendall is sober.
The only reason I've gone there once a month/once every 2-3 months since '19 is to get a 1/2 order of cheesy fries as I've told all I've known (since '16) the Horsehead makes the best cheesy fries in the entire Eugene/Springfield area. Until now, I've given the Horsehead nothing but good publicity & back in '16, I even created my own FB Horsehead page paying homage to the Horsehead. Ever since age 3, I became obsessed w/horses myself & that never changed even tho' I'm now in my 50's.
But, the system of a down began when I asked, 2 months ago, if the 1/2 order was still $8.00. Kendall insisted I was wrong & tried to overcharge me at least $1.00 more than the menu price. It never once occurred to him he could be mistaken either, so he made a snide remark about menu items going up in price like everything else & man-splained inflation to me.
But when I asked him in a neutral tone if he was 100% sure re: that, he became indignant & even more snide, & then, in a moment of cockiness, whipped out a menu so as to rub my nose in it even more, come to find, he was totally mistaken about the 1/2 order being over $1.00 more & then could not even so much as find it w/in himself to be a decent enough human to apologize for his unhinged vitriol towards me.
Worse yet, when I asked if I could tip pre-emptively 2 months ago, he (& a female bartender 3 months ago) both acted 100% put out having to explain to me how pre-emptive tipping is no longer a thing & although she refused to explain to me how I could tip POST payment (vs. pre-payment), at least she did not make me feel like I had no right to breathe the same air space she was. I just chalked it off to her being crazy busy & not having the time, whereas Kendall is a bonafide evil prick who makes zero concession for a person with my type of hidden disability & goes out his way to make me feel beneath him.
But just when I thought things couldn't get any worse, this month he took things to a whole new level on multiple levels. Both times I told him I was on the spectrum too, but that just made him double down on me even more. Oddly enough, even tho' he claims to have worked at the Horsehead 24 years, I've only encountered him 2x from '16 to present.
I don't use my disaibility as an excuse for anything bad either. I only am guilty of what psychologists call "reactive abuse" which, IN TRUTH, isn't abuse at all. What it is, is just a NORMAL reaction to anyone who is a narcissist totally capable of ABNORMAL, altogether sinister, or just outright wrong behavior. Apparently, this bartender reserves the right to not let customers stand up for themselves while he's running roughshod all over them. I only take the "no more Mr. Nice Guy" tack as a last resort when someone MORE THAN has it coming!
In short, Kendall has a sick, sadistic way about him that's all about hyper-controlling the narrative making himself out to be the victim when he's, IN TRUTH, the perpetrator. But he doesn't stop there. He's a master at verbally vivissecting, lacerating, eviscerating, & REFRAMING back to me (& his co-workers) an exaggerated/twisted version of what I said/did so he can get all to see it his way & keep the focus off himself entirely. Makes me seriously wonder who else he's done this to.
Freakishly, when he's in the zone, he makes his co-workers/customers appear as sycophants entirely under his thumb while, right before them, he treacherously deals w/anyone he senses is socially challenged, weak, or not his equal. In the end, he worked it to where he had all believing I put the kibosh on '25 when it was he who crafted my final visit into a hellscape when all I was trying to do was be heard correctly over his falsified, venomous, asp like jabs, & overt, accusatory, slanting/twisting of the truth while minimizing his behavior & grossly exaggerating mine.
Kendall knows how to weave in just enough truth (but only PARTIALLY based on what I actually, in truth, said) with his brazen lies about me (& God knows who else) to get away with it. He has no business working w/the public & is a human stain upon The Horsehead. read more