Review
Last Saturday, March 14, 2026 was my mom's funeral service. What should have been a time for grieving and honoring her turned into chaos, stress, and complete disappointment. I'm getting ahead of myself. Let's start from the beginning
On January 31, 2026, me, my wife and father met with Ed (funeral arranger) and Arlene (planning counselor). The meeting went well. We spoke about the basic stuff like, date of service, prayer cards, flower arrangements, and priest etc etc. We were going to use my mom's life insurance to pay for everything. Since my mom died out of the country, we already knew the life insurance will take longer to process. None of us thought it would be a problem but boy was I wrong.
Probably a week later, Ed and Arlene informs me that we can not continue with the service due to the delay of the life insurance. Original date of mom service was February 21, 2026 but we had to change it. At the time it was TBD cause we didn't know when they were going to get the life insurance. For about 2 weeks, Ed and Arlene would call and ask me , in a nice way, if I was able to pay out of pocket. They both asked a few times for those 2 weeks. To ask if I can pay out of pocket is crazy to me.
On February 26, 2026, the life insurance went through so we paid for the niche, service and secured a date for service , March 14,2026
On March 8, 2026, I went to drop off my moms urn so they can transfer her urn to the cypress urn
From February 26. 2026 til March 13, 2026, I haven't heard from Ed in regards with the service or anything . Even though in the beginning they were hounding me about how to pay for the service
On March 9, 2026 I texted Ed to check in and asked if everything was ready to go for Saturday. I asked if prayer cards, priest, and were good?. I even asked if someone will be at the Pavilion Chapel at 830am so we can set up. His only response was "yes someone will be at 830am"
On March 13, 2026 I called Ed to ask about what type of table cloth I should buy for the tables. He then decides to ask me how i would like to set the seats and tables. He caught me off guard because I was not prepared on how to answer that question and I was wondering why would he asked me that the day before the service . Wouldn't he have asked that weeks prior?
The service was scheduled from 9:00 AM to 12:00 PM, with the burial at 12:30 PM. We arrived around 8:20 AM. When I returned at 9:00 AM, I was told my mom's urn wasn't even there. Let that sink in, the most important part of the service was missing. I spoke with Paul and Andre, who were assigned to us, and Paul told me they thought we were bringing it. That was completely false. I personally dropped it off a week prior with Arlene. I then called Ed and he repeated the same excuse. The lack of communication was unbelievable and inexcusable. It took about 20 minutes into the service before my mom's urn finally showed up.
While dealing with that, I found out my daughter had been handed a flower arrangement. As she tried to place it on the table, where my mom's urn should have been, Paul made a comment to her instead of helping. No compassion, no awareness, just unnecessary remarks to a grieving child.
It didn't stop there. My wife and brother in law had to set up the refreshment tables themselves. They asked Andre if they could move two tables, and he said yes, but didn't lift a finger to help. Why is the grieving family doing the work? Why are we the ones setting up on the day we're supposed to mourn?
Throughout the service, I had to repeatedly ask for basic necessities such as chairs, water bottles, and tissues. There were elderly guests standing, and no one thought to bring out more seating. We were already 45 minutes into the service before these essentials were even available. This is basic funeral service and nothing was prepared.
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