This is my review of Cindy's Singles membership club…read more
To be clear, a membership costs $600 and lasts three months.
I bought one membership in December of 2019 and another in 2023.
I was first recommended to join by a coworker who had happily married a Chinese woman through Cindy's. I thought it was a good idea because I was beginning to want to settle down. Additionally, her office is three blocks from my house. My friend arranged for me to meet Cindy in her office. Before going, I checked out the website and browsed the gallery of female members.
On the day I showed up, Cindy presented three notebooks and gave me a piece of paper to write down the members I wanted to meet. I think I wrote down twenty names but was only introduced to two women from that list.
A few days later, she sent me a WeChat contact for a girl pretty in her 30s like me. I thought this first match would be the one, but my excitement faded when my friend, who had recommended the service, told me that this girlwas actually Cindy's niece and was already in a relationship with another man.
At that point, I realized the service wasn't what I thought it was. However, feeling desperate, I assumed it might have been a mistake by Cindy, so I shouldn't worry.
I thought her notebooks full of women would be effective, but it turned out they were outdated, and most of the women had either changed locations or were now married.
Cindy makes matches based on birth years. I was born in 1983, so she introduced me to women born around that year.She claims.
For some of the matches, I would contact the girls, but they wouldn't respond or didn't know I had been given their contact information by Cindy. There were many awkward WeChat messages.
In most cases, you are given the WeChat contact of a girl who is also being contacted by four other guys at the same time.
Many matches require you to meet the girl in Cindy's office. What you don't know is that the girl is sitting there all day meeting other men. You often walk in to see flowers and gifts from other members.
Here are some examples of matches Cindy made:
Example 1: One match she arranged for me was a girl who needed to be picked up from a supermarket and brought to Cindy's office. I never spoke to her again.
Example 2: Another match was a girl who was already in a relationship, which she told me on our first date. A week prior, she had been single in Cindy's office, but by our date, she was already in a relationship.
Example 3: Another match Cindy made for me was rumored to be transgender. I don't know for sure, but several members told me this. I never indicated that I was interested in transgender individuals.
Example 4: A flight attendant who later told me she only joined Cindy's to network and find people to play board games with on weekends.
Probably my only successful match was a teacher I went out with a few times, and we became intimate. The only problem was that she was dating a much older white man from Cindy's, and I saw them out on a date at the mall. It was very embarrassing for me.
If you are introduced at a party, your chances are even worse. As I mentioned in my previous review, the parties are poorly organized, and priority is given to the sponsor and other Chinese members.
At my first party, Cindy told me she would introduce me to anyone I was interested in. A few times, I asked her, "Hey, can you introduce me to that member?" and she would get a panicked look and say the girl was not a member.
Many times, I was introduced to women who couldn't speak English, and Cindy would walk away, leaving the girl looking very confused.
At one particular party, I told Cindy to introduce me to one girl, and she told me to come back later. When I returned hours later after taking care of my mom, who had a broken hip, Cindy said she didn't want to interrupt another guy who was talking to the girl. Very insulting.
The next day she called me up and asked to to come to her house to meet an attractive Taiwanese female I hadn't seen before.
Very early on, Cindy said my pictures were "scary." She didn't give me any advice on how to take a new picture or even ask me for another; she just told me I was "scary." Upon renewing my membership, I had to ask her to change my picture.
The picture wasn't bad.
A few weeks ago, I spoke to Cindy about the failures of her service, and she explained that another female member had been telling other female members I was a playboy. She never spoke to this other member or told them to stop apparently.
It's shocking and hurtful that she would tell me this years later after taking my money.
She even offered to set me up again with her niece (now engaged).
Cindy has a lot of influence over the girls you are matched with. If she doesn't like you personally, then there's not much she will do for you. There's little thought put into matches other than making you feel like you have choices.
She just keeps you hoping.